You’re Not The Boss Of Me! 5 Ways To Handle A Disobedient Child.

When our children are disobedient, it’s guaranteed to push our buttons. After all were meant to be the ones in charge. Whatever your child’s age, it’s important to be consistent when it comes to discipline. I’m guilty of not doing this and it has probably resulted on making disclipline harder on myself.

There are so many different aspects in raising happy healthy children and discipline really is one of the hardest parts.

Krystabelle is now four years old and her behaviour seems to be getting worse the older she gets, she’s definitely a disobedient child. I have been trying to teach her that her bad behaviour has consequences and will not be tolerated.

I feel that sometimes we as parents can get so carried away when trying to discipline our children, but I’ve learnt that no matter how much I shout or send Krystabelle to the naughty step, it doesn’t have any effect at all.

I’ve decided to write a list of five ways to handle a disobedient child in hope it may help others. But what might work for one parent may not work for another. But here goes:

1. Try and remember that you can’t control others, not even your own child, but you can control how you respond to them.

2. Try not to repeat yourself. When asking your child to do something, make sure you have their full attention and if they don’t want to listen to you the first time, instead of repeating yourself and getting angry, try walking them through what you’ve just asked them to do.

3. Be consistent. Whatever consequences you give your child, try and always be consistent with them, this way they will start learning that there are always consequences to their actions.

4. Lower your expectations. Try not to expect too much from your child, especially at a young age.

5. Give your child choices. This is one of my favourites, my husband actually came up with this idea, I think he may have read it somewhere. But giving your child choices is a really good one when it comes to meal times. If they refuse to finish their dinner, tell them they must eat a little more, and ask if they would rather have four more mouthfuls or five more mouthfuls. They will usually chose the lowest number and will eat their chosen number of mouthfuls too.

Will my top 5 ways help tame your wild child? Probably not but they will definitely help with how you as a parent cope and will hopefully stop all the yelling.

Do you have any tips on how to control your child’s behaviour? I’d love to know!



  1. Tracey Wilkinson
    January 8, 2019 / 2:12 pm

    Some great tips thank you

    • crazytots2018
      January 8, 2019 / 5:05 pm

      Thank you for reading xx

  2. January 8, 2019 / 4:21 pm

    Love the title of this post (made me think of the Malcom and the Middle theme song from many years ago haha). These are great tips for handling a disobedient child — a challenge for any parent, for sure.

    • crazytots2018
      January 8, 2019 / 5:06 pm

      Haha I’m going to have to look up the theme song now, I’ve never seen it. Thank you, definitely a challenge xx

  3. Hannah
    January 8, 2019 / 4:32 pm

    When she is throwing a hissy fit of epic proportions I always forget my middle one is still really little, she’s always been very capable and she’s super bright which makes her seem older but emotionally she is like any other just turned 5yr old ❤️

    • crazytots2018
      January 8, 2019 / 5:07 pm

      The same as my daughter, she’s really bright for her age and likes to think she’s much older than she actually is. But her tantrums tell me otherwise 😂 xx

  4. Louise
    January 8, 2019 / 5:53 pm

    I think they are great top tips! Consistency is definitely the key! They all go through phases and being ‘naughty’ is how they learn 😊

    • crazytots2018
      January 8, 2019 / 6:26 pm

      100% ☺️ it’s their way of expressing their emotions, despite how frustrating it can be for us as parents xx

  5. Jeanne
    January 8, 2019 / 6:02 pm

    I have 4 year old twin girls and it so frustrating when they don’t listen. Thanks for the tips, great information that I will be testing out.

    • crazytots2018
      January 8, 2019 / 6:28 pm

      Thank you 😊 oh that must be a challenge for you, double the trouble. Do let me know if any of the tips work for you xx

  6. Jourdain Goodwill
    January 8, 2019 / 8:12 pm

    Ahh I really love tip 5 will definitely be giving that a go!

    • crazytots2018
      January 8, 2019 / 8:15 pm

      I hope it works for you ☺️ xx

  7. Louise law
    January 8, 2019 / 10:09 pm

    This was a great read! Something I will defo keep in mind with my son when he gets older. I was terrible with disciplining my daughter, so something I will work on with number 2. Although I have heard boys are harder to discipline 🤔🤦🏽‍♀️

    • crazytots2018
      January 9, 2019 / 12:09 am

      Oh no please don’t say that. I really will have my work cut out of this is the case. I’ve always known girls to be worse xx

    • crazytots2018
      January 9, 2019 / 12:10 am

      Ohh fab! What is your blog and I will have to have a read xx

    • crazytots2018
      January 9, 2019 / 4:24 pm

      Thank you. Yes it does. I need to think of other way I can include choices xx

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